The Seedlings Podcast
Self Love - The Most Selfless Thing You Can Do ft. The Seedling Podcast
Self love is often sold as bubble baths and solo trips or confused with selfishness. However, in this episode, I sit down with Simone and Mia, the duo behind The Seedlings Podcast, to talk about why self love is actually one of the most selfless things you can do.
Together, we get into holistic healing, healthy friendships, boundaries, sobriety, celibacy, and therapy. W e agree that doing the inner work doesn’t just change you, it changes everyone around you.
Meet Simone & Mia: The Friends Who Planted a Podcast
Simone and Mia met properly during lockdown after vaguely knowing each other from college. They started going for walks by the river, realised they had ridiculous amounts in common and eventually booked a spontaneous trip to Croatia that sealed their friendship.
Today, they co-host The Seedlings Podcast, a space for:
self-improvement
self-healing
self-awareness
honest conversations about being in your 20s
Their aim? To “plant seeds” in listeners’ minds. Small ideas that people can choose to water and grow in their own time.
Why Platonic Love Matters Just As Much
Both Simone and Mia credit their friendship with changing who they are:
They learned to be more emotionally open
They felt seen, held and accepted
They discovered it’s safe to love and be loved deeply in platonic relationships
They talk about how female friendships can ground you in your 20s, especially when everything else feels unstable. Friends can mirror you back to yourself and gently reveal the areas you still need to heal.
Canon Events, Childhood & Self-Awareness
The pair reflect on “canon events” — those key life moments that shape who you become:
Simone’s experience at a progressive, independent-thinking school, where she learned to resolve problems and think for herself
Mia moving from Germany to England as a child, learning a new language and culture, and having to build confidence in a brand-new environment
These experiences pushed both of them into self-awareness early on and later became a foundation for the themes they explore on their podcast.
What Is Holistic Healing… Really?
Holistic healing can sound “woo-woo” at first glance but the way they explain it is simple and practical:
It’s not just about treating one symptom — it’s looking at your whole life.
That means asking:
What are you eating?
Who are you around?
How much do you move your body?
Are you expressing your emotions or suppressing them?
It’s about seeing the connection between mind, body, environment and emotions, rather than just numbing pain or rushing to “fix” one thing.
Self Love = The Most Selfless Thing You Can Do
One of the strongest points they make is that self love impacts everyone around you — your friends, partners, future children, and community.
Simone and Mia challenge the idea that self love means, “I only have myself, I don’t need anyone.”
Instead, they see it as:
learning to treat yourself the way you treat your best friend
directing some of the love you easily give others back towards yourself
building a stable, safe version of you who can love others better
They argue that self love isn’t selfish, it’s an investment in your future relationships and the people who depend on you.
Solitude vs. Support: You Don’t Have to Heal Alone
Yes, solitude can be powerful. Time alone can:
help you hear your own thoughts
clarify what you really feel
allow you to reset without outside noise
But they stress that healing only in isolation isn’t sustainable.
Friends, community, therapy, and trusted people are part of the process too.
You need both:
time with yourself
time with people who reflect, support, and challenge you
Redefining Relationships with Alcohol & Sex
On their platforms, Simone and Mia also speak openly about:
Sobriety & drinking more consciously
Celibacy & redefining sex
Not from a judgmental place, but from a place of experience.
They talk about:
stepping back from patterns that felt harmful
cutting things out for a season
then reintroducing them more intentionally, with new boundaries
It’s less about “never again” and more about asking, “Is this thing helping me avoid myself, or helping me connect more deeply to myself?”
Therapy, Validation & Realising “It Makes Sense That I Feel This Way”
We also talk about therapy and how powerful it can be just to have someone say:
“What you’ve been through is a lot. It makes sense you feel this way.”
That validation alone can be healing. It helps you realise you’re not “dramatic” or “weak” — you’re human, responding to real experiences.
Where They Are Now & What’s Next
Right now:
Simone is in her final year at university in Bristol, studying Ancient History
Mia has graduated and started a new role at a medical charity
Alongside their studies and work, they continue growing The Seedlings Podcast, dreaming of:
wellness festivals
live podcast shows
events that bring community and healing into physical spaces
All of this started because they decided to just begin — to hit record even when it felt scary.
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